SILENCE
Hye :)
Posting this while listening 'warmness on the soul ' :)
Silence;
Basically people will have this good perception on 'silence' .. Because we always think that it will be the best way or the best solution in every chaos or problems. But how faR is it true ?
Before I write further, would like to stress it up that, this is all my personal opinion, sorry for any unmutual thoughts with u readers ..okay? :D
So let's narrowing this thing to 'solving problem with silence '. To me. There are certain things that can be handled with silence . Maybe it is preferable because we want to avoid any harsh action involved to solve them ,or thing that always come out is ' xnak panjangkan cerita ' ..PLAY SAFE
And some people choose to have 'silence' as the solution is because they do not know how to solve it efficiently . so jalan paling mudah , 'silence' SENANG XPAYAH PIKIR APA
.Another people may come out with the reason ' biarlah biar dia buat kita jangan kita buat dia' .
Okay so what else .. naa another one that always be the reason of people choosing 'silence' to solve problem is because respect. Ha this occurs when we're handling things with maybe someone elder ,seniors, parents or family. One of the factor also will be 'nak jaga hati' .
So do you have anything else in mind why do people choose 'silence' to solve thinga?
Hmm it's too subjective to talk about actually..We are facing this everyday in our life it's either we face it by ourselves or happen to people around us or maybe in tv? The situation of ' do we need to do something or just keep silent' . I agree, sometimes we do really2 need to shut our mouth up ,and.. accept whatever is happening for certain reasons. Betul lah kadang2 disebabkan nak jaga hati orang tu, kalau benda tu salah pun kita terpaksa la diam xbanyak bunyi. Kadang2 jugak , pasal respect. WE LAWAN WE MATI ..haa if that case , then silence will be preferable .
BUTT! okay not butt, it's BUT.. how far can 'silence' solve the problem, clear the messy, smooth the way and stop the chaos . Sometimes when it comes to our right that need to be preserved well, need to be protected ,highly protected, silence is not the best way. hak tetap hak. bila dah masuk hal yang melibatkan hak atau maruah then we should fight. That's why we learn debate owh haha okay that's why we have debate. To show that we should fight for it , stand and get the winning stand for the right! .Well we cannot say yang benda2 jahat pun nak ditegakkan ke? ha that needs our own intelligence to think on ur own, are u fighting for the right one or vice versa. to think wisely are things that we fight for is correct? If u are on fault side then u better step back bro .silent!
Not that we want to be people that keep complaining but yea as what I always said apa apa pun back to rationality of ur own self. If u think u have to stand and voice out for rational thing, that please do . But if not.then maybe we should just keep silent and let another party to solve or judge it.
Sometime some people just like me ,kinda a detail oriented person, kita selalu macam membangkitkan sesuatu benda yang xkena pada kita berbanding dengan orang yang less detail type of person kan. That's y if anything happen even if it is small that others may think we should just handle it with silent, but to me we cannot. We have to make it in a better way than silent because on my view most of the time la, that if we choose silent as the way from beginning till the end, it shows the effortless there. But undeniable memang sometimes in certain case SILENCE IS THE BEST WAY .And my damn detail criteria will turn out to be the most care less person in certain situation with certain people :)
So that are. Sometimes when we silent, dari sudut positivenya , orang akan cakap kita ni senang nak compromise, tolerated person dari segi salasilahnya will look much better ofcourse. Negativenya, orang boleh cakap kita ni easy to handle easy to play with , like kalau kita buat apa pun dia xkisah punya , boleh pijak lagi kepala.
so how if vice versa? positively we will be slightly respected if we can handle something only if it succeed . then mungkin orang tak pandang enteng kat kita like if they wanna do or say something they will atleast think twice to remmber that this person is not easy-to-get easy-to-pancing person. Negatively, this type of person will be labeled as keras kepala , banyak songeh kuat complain suka make things bigger and etc.
To me is simple. Depends on situation when should we silent and when should we act and voice out . But honestly I dont really agree with people that always, always choose to have silence in almost everything that happen .I know there are millions of reason why beyond it but just be rational la.. asyik nak diam je biar je go with the flow xklua effort let everything happen just like that, let people make fun or dumb u, sekali sekala acceptable la okay but if continuously pun macam stupidity jugakla.. But if too much voicing out pun xboleh jugak coz it will be annoying and harmful in certain way . So kena balancing . Maybe with the power of one word or one statement, things will go wow ? who knows.
For my life so far I think I rarely choose silence. To me everything has their own solution that must be solved with communication and good skills in handling things. I rarely have silence as choice because that's so not me. hehe usually so far if anything that mess up with me I will just atleast not saying cari pasal balikla but give them something jut to show Im not stupid and that weak and fragile esay to dumb. Like the guys yg pernah mess up with me ke that one lady my senior dlu kat sekolah dlu, I received much advice to just let them after what theyve done to me but my way is, I need to talk to them .Im not harming them just need to communicate. Silence with people that messing up with me sometimes show my weakness maybe. But ! when it comes to keadaan2 tertentu macam respect, rules seumpamanya, ha I need to put all those professional matter infront :)
And another example is in relationship,friendship. Communication is the best way .always be. If something that u think u need to tell for the sake of the relatiohip than u tell. But maybe u think that ala diam jela simpan sendiri let me keep this alone so things will not get fucked up benda xjadi besar, okay. Rationally, dont keep if u feel not okay on something UNLESS U REALLY2 HAVE TO .Sebab how long je things can be kept inside ,one day soon or later simpan punya simpan, last2 burst out mcm gunung berapi baru tau. Kesabaran kan ada batas so mana tau selama ni sabar sebab tu keep silent , sabar hilang? Silence jadi violence -,- Then if truth revealed one day , ha jadi issue jugak because u kept silent before kan..
Another thing. sometimes we havin so much pain inside that make us dah malas dah nak fit things right so silence will be choosed :) lantak nak jadi apa
p/s : Ada jugak orang yang xkan choose SILENCE not because they think it is needed or rational to fight for or whatesoeva, They just cant let their ego low. Xbran la if silent kan xjantan.. hmm pergi mana je ego tu,,
So apa2pun back to our own rationality :)
GOODLUCK ME AND READERS! ALLAH saves us all :)
